Married Without a Wife

It was my friends’ wedding last Saturday. Prior to tying the knot, they were on for 10 years. That brings me to the question – having been through a long engagement, would getting married be any different? Would quantity be qualitative enough? The reason behind the question is not because of my unawareness over the uncommonness of probabilities. I guess it boils down to how my marriage is…
I was actually talking one co-employee out of getting hitched as I believe they were rushing into it. Then, there’s this friend I was teasing into settling down as it’s about time. However, I can’t seem to convince myself on how I’d go about my own.
Lately (or as usual), my wife and I get into discussions that lead into heated arguments. Sad as it may be, it’s about sticking still with each other or otherwise. Bottom-line, she gets into my nerves as much as I get into hers. There seems to be a lot of irreproachable excuses for us to call it quits yet there are consequential reasons to hang on. If I know any better, I’d deem the whole thing as just a phase.
How ironic it could be as inwardly, letting go is outwardly the logical option. Then perhaps, our uncertainty over whatever decision is what seems to be holding us back. Plus of course, the children are the most considerable factor. It shouldn’t be; or for all we know, we could just be insensibly using the children as an excuse to hold on.
Not being clouded with selfishness is a tinge of hope that everything will eventually fall into its proper places. There’s something worth fighting for. Such is the case in being patient for the time when roles will be acknowledged and duly portrayed.

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Hey!

Firstly, Merry Christmas! Though ‘lastly’ would seem to be a more fitting inception since it’s been a while… When was the last?

I’ve wanted to write about a lot of issues including what took a toll on why I haven’t blogged for quite a time.

Busy!

Somehow, Marketing’s 4 P's (Product, Price, Place, and Promotion) seemed to have made sure of that… However, what really demanded of my time are similarly insistent 4 P's – Peak season, Party, Priority and Paternity.

During these Holidays for a peak season I make sure festivities (or any form of a clients’ manifestation of the Christmas Spirit) live up to the concerned parties’ expectations as much as deliver likely results for our company. And as if that’s not taxing enough, as soon as I get home, I still have to set priorities being a father. It’s all worth it!

For now, I just want to wish everyone Happy Holidays!!!

‘Lastly’ would not be appropriate after all… Till next…

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Broken Promise

One of the most gratifying feelings is being in-love. The sense of knowing you’re capable of tendering anything possible for a love one is just overwhelming. What makes it more promising is the fact that you’re almost sure to give up anything for that special person. Even so, a promise of “forever” is likewise emphasized.
Meeting that one person you believe is meant for you, sets off assertion to make do of any probability just to validate the unfolding of destiny. On occasion against all odds, withstanding the challenge makes it much sweeter than it already is; and quite seemingly, it’s an assumed substantiation of the concerned couple’s destined union.

When parting ensues once realization sets in to rather serve as a wakeup call that contradicts the primary passion, believing “it’s not meant to be” isn’t as simple to accept as the time you prematurely thought it was. It’s a case of easily accepting a possible-lover stranger although hardly letting-go of a used-to-be-stranger lover. Invested emotions seems to be one’s hold on to it as it would be such a waste if indeed it will only go for naught.
Loving someone regardless of time is never a waste. More so, it will never be for nothing. The opportunity to experience sharing it with someone, even for just a moment, is in itself worthy of eternal bliss; as the saying goes “It’s better to have loved and lost than to have not loved at all”… But then, to be open-minded, that’s easier said than done.
It’s not easy to forget especially when what is to be rather forgotten has left a lasting impression. And sometimes, what makes it doubly difficult is our seriousness to what has been romantically said regarding being together forever. Let us not dwell on having to hold on to what was idealistically said. What is considerably more important is what was sensibly manifested. But then again, it’s the sensitivity behind human nature. We tend to give so much importance to uttered assurances to the point we refuse to figure out probabilities. In life, being promised of constancy is not an assurance of its certainty. In other words, life is how you make it, not how you say it. In love, words could be heard; on the other hand, actions are felt.
Nonetheless, there are words that elicit action. Words that seem to suggest goodbye implies to induce an action suggestive of letting-go. Seemingly tied up to a vow to hold on no matter what… It’s hard. Yet, we have to… set free, break free… let go…

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